Updated: Mar 5, 2021
With everything going on in the world, let alone our own homes, it’s easy to sometimes forget one of the most important things in our lives; our relationship with our partner/spouse/loved one.
As someone who runs their own business and is also married to someone who also runs their own business, it’s all too easy to get out of touch with each other. We have to make an effort every day to stay connected and to remind each other how much we love and value the other person.
Before writing this post, I sat down with my amazing husband Spencer, and together, we created this list of things that we and you can do in your own relationships, to keep them strong and growing.
Be A Good Listener
Having a bad day is part of life and they happen to pretty much everyone. On those days, when your partner comes home complaining about an annoying coworker or the broken bathroom sink, try to just listen. You don’t need to jump in and try to fix everything. They simply want someone to listen to them, validate their feelings, and if they ask for help, be there for them. I’ve come to realize that it’s often more helpful just to listen than it is to try and fix everything.
Compliment Each Other More
Let’s do an experiment. The next time you see your partner, compliment them on something. It can be their hair, their outfit, or even their smile. This goes for both men and women. Let’s be honest. Who doesn’t like to hear nice things about themselves?
It’s easy to fall out of the routine of compliments since you do see each other pretty much 24/7, but by making this little extra effort, you might just make their day.
Hold hands, kiss, hug, or just sitting by each other can make all the difference. Your partner just wants to know that when you are with them, you’re really with them. It doesn’t matter if it’s just a gentle hand on the back or some intimate time, when you physically connect with someone, it brings a new level of trust and love.
Write Love Notes
I’m going to sound old when I say this, but with everything nowadays being so tech related, it’s not very often you get a handwritten note from someone. Go grab a notebook or sticky note, and leave your partner a love note. It can be as simple as an “I love you” or just a smiley face. Put it somewhere that it will be a surprise for when they see it. I guarantee they will have the biggest smile when they read it!
It doesn’t matter if you get all dressed up and go to the fanciest restaurant in town or just stay home and watch a movie together, just make sure you’re going on regular dates. The point of regular dates is that it’s showing you’re still pursuing your partner and you want to spend time with them. Just like in the beginning of your relationship, you need to keep putting in effort, especially as time goes on and your attention is pulled every which way.
Above all else, remember to show yourself, your partner, and your relationship the love and attention they deserve. Our relationships help mold not only ourselves, but also those around us. Make sure your relationship is one you wish others to have.